Christmas is approaching, but your world may not be merry and bright. If you have lost a loved one to a Georgia DUI accident, the holiday season and the expectations that come with it can enhance feelings of loss and loneliness. Instead of celebrating, you may be wondering how you will cope. Atlanta DUI victim attorney Shane Smith offers these tips:
- Recognize that your feelings are normal.
- Don’t have unrealistic expectations. Give yourself permission to feel the way you feel.
- Take the holiday season one day at a time. Often the anticipation of pain and loneliness during the holidays is worse than the actual day.
- Allow yourself private time to grieve and to remember past holidays. Let people know if you’d like to share memories.
- Don’t worry about making new traditions or keeping old traditions. Let each person in your family decide what he or she needs from the holidays. Then compromise, so each person’s needs are met. For example, if one family member wants to stay home and avoid celebrating this year, but another feels that going to church on Christmas Eve will help her find meaning, compromise and limit social engagements and outings to those that mean the most.
- Do something symbolic in memory of your loved one: light a candle, plant a tree, or donate to charity in your loved one’s memory.
- Plan the holidays. Decide what you’ll do and when. Will you buy gifts for your grandchildren? Will you bake cookies for the teachers? Decide what is manageable and then break it down into small, easy-to-do tasks.
- Ask for help. Whether you need assistance shopping, someone to deliver cookies, or a friend to help stave off loneliness, let others know how they can best help you.
- Do something for someone else. Helping others can help keep your mind of your sorrows.
- Give yourself permission to have fun. Enjoying the holidays is not a betrayal of your loved one.
Atlanta DUI victim attorney Shane Smith fights to help families of Georgia DUI victims get justice after their loss. To learn more, or to discuss your own Georgia wrongful death claim, contact the Law Offices of Shane Smith at 866-976-1629.